Let’s do The Work
The Work Process
For thousands of years we’ve been told not to judge — but let’s face it, we do it all the time. We all have judgments running in our heads. Through The Work we finally have permission to let those judgments speak out, or even scream out, on paper. We may find that even the most unpleasant thoughts can be met with unconditional love.
Investigate each of your statements from the Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet using the four questions. The Work is meditation. It’s about opening to your heart, not about trying to change your thoughts. Ask the questions, then go inside and wait for the deeper answers to surface.
In its most basic form, The Work consists of four questions and turnarounds. For example, your statement might be “[Name] doesn’t listen to me.” Find someone in your life about whom you have had that thought. Then take that statement and put it up against the four questions and turnarounds of:
1 Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to 3.)
2 Can you absolutely know that it’s true? (Yes or no.)
3 How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4 Who would you be without the thought?
Then find at least three specific, genuine examples of how each turnaround is true for you in this situation.
Find the Turnarounds
After you have investigated your statement with the four questions, you’re ready to turn around the concept you’re questioning.
Each turnaround is an opportunity to experience the opposite of what you originally believed.
A statement can be turned around to the self, to the other, and to the opposite (and sometimes to “my thinking,” when that feels appropriate). Find at least three specific, genuine examples of how each turnaround is true in your life, and then allow yourself the time and presence to feel them deeply.
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