The thoughts that cause you pain define what your story is. We can all be victims of our stories and become very attached to them. We could even convince ourselves that they are true. Byron Katie’s The Work doesn’t ask you to drop your story, instead, it asks that you simply investigate who you would be without your story and even believe that it is true. Grief is also a story of its own and it usually appears to be about the painful thoughts about the loss of a loved one, the breakup of a marriage, the loss of a job, the loss of a friend, the loss of status, failure, loss of an opportunity. All of these causes are just triggers for grief and the real cause lies deeper within you – in the thinking.
How The Work guides you to identify Grief-Producing Thoughts
The process of questioning your stressful thoughts is a very personal journey because you can only find the answers within yourself. We all grieve differently, don’t we? And each of us has different stressful thoughts to question in order to deal with that grief. You might think that you need to have to it all figured out, after investigating this thought, you might discover that some of your grief falls away. Most of us deal with thoughts or belief that make us feel regret and think that we could somehow prevent your loss. Looking inwards, taking a moment of stillness, and questioning this thought will get you on the path to eventually, naturally letting it go.
Byron Katie invites all experience suffering because of grief-producing thoughts to end the suffering out of the goodness, and dearness, and mercy, of your own heart. There are universes of wisdom that lie within you that you may be missing. The Work will help you along the way of discovering the true answers to the questions, and the examples of your turnarounds are the key to that wisdom.
End the suffering caused by grief-producing thoughts
It might take you longer than one session but the best way to move from accepting what is and actually loving that truth is to keep doing The Work. Grief can be devastating but all The Work will offer you, is something that is already within you, waiting to be realized. Schedule a session with Mark Cave, a man who has experienced loss himself and freed himself from the beliefs associated with it, will guide you through Byron Katie’s inquiry of four questions.
What is Byron Katie’s The Work?
The Work is a meditative process, which includes taking a moment of stillness to get in touch with yourself and a fuller experience of life. It is an inquiry into us to identify the thought that you’re thinking and believing in an actual situation in the past or your future that you may fear or dread. The Work will allow everyone to wake up to our true reality of our nature.
“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there”—as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering—the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.”
— Byron Katie